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Every boy that my older daughter has been out with for any length of time still wants to marry her. I find that quite unusual. She finds it difficult and upsetting. Since she broke up with the last boyfriend she has turned more to her old friends, the four closest of which are boys she once had an affair with. She did end these affairs herself in every case but as kindly as possible and has continued to see all of them on a fairly regular basis, giving support and love life advice etc. like a sister.

But in the past few weeks every single one of them has suddenly come out of 'friend' mode and admitted that they have never loved another woman in the same way and have always deep down assumed that they would finally end up with her. One of them, (gorgeous), even said that for the last FIVE years he has only had casual affairs because 'what was the point' of settling down with someone else when he was eventually going to marry her? Not only that, she has been very impressed with the attitude of the one she has just broken up with, who has been calm and reasonable and continued to meet her for drinks unemotionally. Now his behaviour has taken on a worrying edge, especially as she has realised that every time she sees him he is wearing clothes that she gave him.

'So all my 'best' friends have some scary hidden agenda and nothing they have said for years is actually real. And when I do finally marry someone - probably none of them - some hell will be let loose and I will never see any of them again'.

- posted by Iris @ 9/18/2004 09:35:00 AM comment